Have Social Problems? I Got The Remedy

Why do we have social anxiety? There are so many reasons why we’re trapped ourselves in mental boxes, such as: getting roasted on, not feeling attractive enough, being picked on, or just being too different. We hide our identities because it feels safe but in reality, we’re missing out on enjoying a great social life. No matter how afraid of people we are, in our minds we want to become social savvies, the popular kid, that nigga or the boss ass bitch.

How do we fix this? We need to gain self-confidence in ourselves. I know you guys hear that redundantly and it’s sounds very difficult, so I’m here to bring it to a different light and offer a better solution.  In the case of social anxiety, you have to develop the mindset of shamelessness (Yes, I know it’s not a word but who cares). What’s the difference? Shamelessness is about not caring about being judged. It means not being aSHAMEd of who you are, being yourself without limitations. It far more easier than gaining self-confidence. Look at the chart below:

SHAMELESSNESS	CONFIDENCE
Letting go of what’s already inside which is fear, anxiety, and just embracing the good part of you Way more stability because no matter what happens, I will still enjoy myself and I won’t feel bad no matter what. It’s like taking a shit then feeling better afterwards.	Something you gain from success of a goal Not always stable, it’s a mentally of “I feel good when good stuff happen”, if something bad happen it can all good out the window It’s like betting cash on something, you only feel good if you win cash and bad when you lose it.

To develop the shamelessness mindset, you have to nip it in the butt. You have to get comfortable with making a fool of yourself, expecting to fail. You can do little things like saying random things to strangers, or big things like dance in public. Doing crazy and silly things in public will eliminate the fear of social rejection. To be clear, I’m not telling you to do some extremely stupid that can get you in trouble, but something silly like “Tell a random person they sexy like your Grandpa.” You’ll realize there’s no pressure to be yourself after acting like a moron. With that being said, get off your ass and go make some friends, approach beautiful women, join clubs, and start living life. Forget all the negative times you had socially, today is a new day.

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